Goal Setting

Create you self improvement plan

Create a life plain right now.  The most important realization you can have as an individual is achieving self growth, personal development and self improvement.

 

As an individual, you will have different goals, priorities and empowerment for life. This in turn means that different activities and attitudes make you feel good about yourself. You also have different natural strengths and weakness that are part of your inherent personality type.

How then, as an individual can you take yourself to the top in life?

Everyone has a different idea of what it means to be successful. Self-knowledge is one common goal that will help you achieve personal success. So many individuals have hang-ups on somebody else’s ideas of what it means to be successful, and they are unaware of what is truly important to them. Let me say this is completely normal.

Everyone has role models and influencer's in their lives and others may have values that are quite different to our own. As this is the case, it is important to recognize that the discrepancy between what you were taught to be truly important and what is personally truly important is due to a difference in perspective. If you spend your time and effort trying to meet other people’s ideas of success, and ignore or belittle any conflicting messages from your psyche, then you will find yourself exhausted and unhappy. Realizing what is truly important to you is a major step towards creating your own life plan.

There was a time, in the not-so-distant past, when families were expected to give up everything in order to achieve the financial security they craved. Perhaps you remember those decades, perhaps you are too young to recall those times. Those were the days when climbing the corporate ladder was a revered activity, and wives and children gazed fondly at pictures of the breadwinner in order to remember whether poor, exhausted Dad had blue eyes or brown.

Large companies moved employees from one city to another, like pawns on a chessboard and if you had any hope of climbing the ladder toward upper management positions, you packed up the wife and kids and moved on from Chicago, to Boston, to New York, to Tokyo. In the intervening years, the divorce rate climbed, fathers lost touch with their families and died of heart attacks and strokes at an alarming rate. When these men retired, they felt useless and unproductive.

Over the years, the identity of these men had become inextricably tied to their success on the job. New retirees found themselves wondering who they were, and why they were living with women who were complete strangers to them. And, whatever happened to those darling kids who used to live in the house?

Then women entered the workforce in earnest and joined the rat race. Lest you think that this rat race has come to an end, look to the evidence of stress related death and illness, an increase in the average number of hours worked by employees in the U.S. and around the world, skyrocketing numbers of divorces and children in single-parent families. In addition, let us not forget those of us who are responsible for the care of aging parents.

We live in a world of conveniences that were designed to give us more leisure time. However, it would seem that all the informational overload, whirring computers and media blitz has given us is more time for work. It is not unusual for men and women to work sixty or seventy hours per week on average. Some of us work eighty or ninety hours without batting an eyelash, and we fool ourselves into thinking we have a life!

Are you one of the enlightened few, who have already concluded that giving up a social and family life is too great a price to pay?

Maybe, you have stress related health problems, perhaps you are not eating right, and you are probably fighting with your spouse, boyfriend or best friend because you spend too little time with the people you care about most. You probably cannot find the time to return phone calls or send a birthday card to your Aunt Betty.

It does not matter if you are a lineman for a utility company, a pizza delivery girl, a corporate executive or an aspiring dancer. In today’s chaotic world, it is a safe bet that you do not have enough time for work, family and friends. Moreover, since your boss holds a tight rein on your paycheck, it is likely that your family and friends are the ones that suffer.

Not surprisingly, of all the generations in the workforce today, these young adults are the most likely to consider job flexibility and schedules when they look for a job, and it is key to employee retention for companies that employ these young workforce.

The point of all of this background information is to let you know that you are not alone in your desire to find balance.

Nowadays, the terms self improvement, personal development, self growth and goal setting have become a popular subject. It seems to me that people are now turning inside themselves to find the solutions to their problems. They seek knowledge and techniques, so they can be shown the way. You can use online resources such as The Secrets of Self Mastery course, for example. Also people are starting to understand that to recognize your weakness through self-improvement, personal-development and self-growth does improve the quality of life.

The subconscious mind is one of the major keys. However, changing the contents of the subconscious mind means you will also change your habits, behavior and attitude.

The process of inner change requires inner work. It is not enough to read, you have to practice what you read and this takes time and effort. There is no such thing as instant self improvement and self growth. Any inner change takes time and there must be motivation, desire, ambition, perseverance and dedication. Outer and inner resistance and opposition must be taken into account too. Upon starting any self improvement and self growth program most people usually encounter inner resistance; this comes from your old habits and your subconscious mind and also resistance and opposition from the people around you. I DO NOT CARE IF YOU ARE LAZIEST PERSON WHO EVER DREW A BREATH. If you just cannot get yourself to do what you need to do, if your willpower and persistence always seems to fizzle out, then check out the new paradigm in personal growth.

 

Recognize your weakness do not hide behind it.

Although improving your self-knowledge and realizing your true goals can be very liberating, you should not discard the rules of your society. You should recognize that other people’s values are no less important than your own. You should also recognize and accept that you live in a society where certain personality types and behaviors are more suited towards particular tasks. This is the key to open the door of opportunities.

Let me give you an example, there may be a situation where you need to be more appropriate and effective to show compassion and caring (feelings), rather than impersonal logic (thinking). Likewise, there are situations that call for using impersonal logic to make a decision, for which a more subjective viewpoint of the feeling function is inappropriate and ineffective. Persons with a preference for feeling will have a natural advantage over thinkers who in a situation require compassion and awareness of others emotions. A person with a preference for thinking will have natural advantage over feelers in situations that require the ability to make a decision based on impersonal date.

When you learn about your own personality and the personality of others, you are empowered with the understanding of why people react differently in different situations. This gives you insight, which is extremely useful and powerful to you as an individual. However, if you are concerned with growing as an individual, you must take care not to use personality type as an excuse for your own inappropriate behavior. You need to recognize that your personality has weaknesses, and you must acknowledge them to conquer those weaknesses rather than make excuses for poor behavior. Remember you cannot be responsible for other people’s behavior, but you can control your own.

 

Now ask yourself this question.

Do thoughts have some essential quality or presence that radiates in your mind to improve your brain power, or does the act of imagining; engage you in a creative process generating self improvement and self growth?

You should now see that by generating self improvement and self growth through setting goals brings to you balance and success. They have different meanings and are different because of personality types. However, one statement that is true for all types is that when you create your life plan it will empower your life.