How to save a relationship
A relationship is about two people becoming one, allowing the closest and most intimate relationship a couple can have.
You have someone that you have promised to stick with through the highs and the lows. You relate to each other in common humanity, feeling each other’s pain, and covering each other’s weaknesses. You enjoy each other’s strengths and delights and relish in each other’s success. Your partner is your counselor, your companion, and your best friend. In short a partner through life. If you are patient enough, kind enough and unselfish enough, you will discover that each of you have a lot of love to give, that is both rich and fulfilling.
The most essential feature of a good relationship is dealing with disappointment and failure.
You may ask ‘how can this be true’? Happy relationships are supposed to be happy. Yes, this is true, but as you well know in everyday life a little rain must fall. You must deal with disappointment and failure at various times in your life. Even if you are living a happy life, you must be prepared for the inevitable challenges and stresses you will meet along the way, and you need the ability as a couple to deal with the problems as they occur.
The most important characteristic of a good relationship is the desire and the ability to establish a strong affectionate bond together, then to be able to repair that bond, whenever the inevitable disruptions accrue. No relationship exists without its ups and downs. It is having the ability to recover from them and to meet the challenges and go on in harmony. By re-establishing the bond you both have, makes your relationship a strong one.
This ability is no simple matter; it takes a solid sense of oneself and the capability to put your-self in your partner shoes. You need to understand your partner and to have a willingness to share the power in the relationship and the commitment to communicate clearly, freely and considerately with each other. These skills develop from the respect you have for each other’s point of view, their perspective, and their needs. You need to have a real appreciation for the differences between your partner and yourself. This kind of respect leads to an increased sense of closeness, acceptance, and empowerment. When this situation exists, you will have a good relationship.
The process of growing together is not always automatic.
In most cases, people have big expectations of what a relationship is going to be like. The first lesson of a relationship is to accept the way your partner is, you should never try to make your partner someone they are not.
Over the years you cannot stay the same. Not only will your appearance change, but your thinking will change, your character will change, and many other things will change especially if children come along. Relationships are about talking and listening to each other’s point of view and avoiding a communication breakdown. If you have a relationship where you can communicate with ease, everything else in your relationship will work. Good talking and listening skills are the basis of a committed relationship.
Any successful relationship shares one thing and that is the ability to share ideas and feelings even when things are tough. As with any skill, the more you talk about what you are doing, what you are interested in, and what you are concerned about, the closer you will become with your partner.
To build a strong relationship you need to lay down some foundations.
For example- New ways to communicate, discussing sensitive and complicated issues and forgiveness needs to become a habit.
A relationship is like a home, it requires maintenance and the occasional minor repair. Your relationship has endless opportunities. At the heart of a strong relationship is a strong friendship. Even good friends can drift apart unless positively feed and held together daily, weekly, and annually.
There is one golden rule to a relationship. That is the need to be sure you make time for each other and make sure you have fun together.