Ways to gain confidence in 4 easy steps

How to Gain Confidence and boost your self esteem. Facing doubts and overcoming them can be the hardest thing you do.


We all want to gain confidence and feel good about ourselves so we can live our very best life.


Here are some ways to gain confidence and raise self-esteem:

Do something that requires a decision and a follow-through. Start to become the master of your success.

Have you been putting off writing that letter to Aunt Martha? Is there a friend you have been meaning to call? Wash the car, tidy the garden or clean the house. You will gain confidence by setting goals (even small ones) and following through on them.


Enjoy something you do well.

Do you have any hobbies or sports that you enjoy playing? Some things like going swimming, painting or writing can hold your attention and get you into a state of ‘flow’. While you are in the flow you forget about everything else.

Afterwards, you will feel competent and capable. It is a great way to boost your self-esteem. If you do not have any particular hobbies or pastimes that you enjoy make an effort to try something you have always wanted to try

Picture yourself doing it, and then give it a try! It does not have to be something big it can be as simple as joining a walking club.

You will find that you are more centered and happier if you do something that puts you in that flow at least once a week and it may even bring inspiration into your life.


Shift the focus.

It has been shown that low self-esteem develops hand-in-hand when you put too much focus on yourself. You can gain confidence by doing something that focuses on someone else or even something else.

You will find that when you are in a situation where you are meeting new people, you immediately become less nervous when you focus on the person you are meeting.

At the end of the day, you have interacted with others and will notice that you feel much lighter.


Relax, already!

Learning to become more relaxed is a great life enhancer. People who are more relaxed have fewer problems with their memories and are more likely to take the bumps in the road of life in stride.

The practice of meditation has gained popularity for this reason. You might want to look into Tai Chi, which involves physical relaxation techniques.

Whatever method you decide on, take relaxation seriously, the benefits are just too great to ignore. If you have never considered relaxation important, think of it this way: if you can attend to something that results in feeling good, how can you not gain confidence in your personal abilities?


Make a list of everything you have ever accomplished.

Think small. An accomplishment is an accomplishment! Some things you could put on your list: passed my driver’s test and got my license, scored a goal when I played hockey, managed to save enough money to go on a trip and so on.

These are just a few ideas you can use to gain confidence and boost your self-esteem. Use these ideas as a base point and add these things permanently in your life.

Keep in mind, people are not born with good self-esteem, most of you have to work at it. It develops from your thinking and the things you do daily to make yourself feel good.