Techniques for self growth

What is self growth? To be honest personal growth means different things to different people.  Here are tips to guide you through the different stages.


Nowadays, the terms self-improvement, self-growth and personal development have become a popular subject. There are many books and many websites on the subject. It seems to me that people are now turning inside themselves to find the solutions to their problems. They seek knowledge, techniques, workshops and lectures so they can be shown the way. People are starting to understand that self-improvement and self-growth does improve their quality of life.

The process of inner change requires inner work. It is not enough to just read, you have to practice what you read and this takes time and effort. There is no such thing as instant self-improvement. Any inner change takes time and there must be motivation, desire, ambition, perseverance and dedication. Outer and inner resistance and opposition must be taken into account too. Upon starting any self-improvement program most people usually encounter inner resistance; this comes from your old habits and your subconscious mind and from resistance and opposition from people around you.

The desire to change, build new habits and improve must be strong enough to resist any ridicule or opposition from family, friends or colleagues. Let me tell you something about myself. I was drawn to self-improvement techniques some years ago and I now regard it as a source of inner strength, happiness and a better way of life.

One of the most useful techniques that I have discovered was a simple but very effective technique. It consisted of watching how others behaved and acted in various situations and then I looked inside myself to find out if I behaved in the same way under the same conditions.

When I saw people with certain traits or a certain kind of behavior that I did not like, I examined myself to see whether I possessed them too. If I did I visualized and rehearsed in my mind a different type of behavior. In my mind’s eye, I saw myself with the opposite traits and behavior. I visualized myself in situations, and then I would manifest the new behavior.

When I encountered traits or behavior that I liked in people, I would think about these advantages, benefits and there importance in my life. Here too, I used visualization and endeavored to act in this way in my daily life.

In this way I have learned and benefited from the behavior and actions of people around me, at work, at home, in the street and everywhere else. This was not because I was judging them. It is simply a way to increase the knowledge about how my mind and thoughts influence the behavior and actions of people.

So how can you take advantage of the technique for self-improvement and self-growth?
Look around you and watch how people behave in various circumstances. Watch the people you meet at home, work, or at a supermarket, on the train and on the street. Watch and learn from people being interviewed on television and also from movies.

Watch how people talk, walk and react and how they are consequently treated by others.

Pay attention to the way people use their voice, and how they react to other people’s voices, watch how you feel and act when people shout or speak softly. Watch what happens when people get angry, restless and upset and what happens if they are calm and relaxed.

If you do not like what you see, analyze it and find out why you do not like it, and then analyze your own behavior to find out whether you behave in the same way. Be honest and impartial in your analysis as this is all part of your personal growth.

If you discover that you manifest some of these undesirable traits and behaviors, affirm to yourself often, that every time you manifest these traits or behaviors you are going to be conscious and aware of them and you will start to avoid them.

Play in your mind a mental scene of how you would like to behave. Repeat it several times a day, every day.

When you detect a type of behavior or trait you like and desire to possess try to act in a similar way. Here too visualize several times each day a scene where you act and behave in that way. You can also decide to change some habits and behavior patterns allowing you to develop new ones, make sure you believe they are necessary and beneficial.

Think and visualize over and over again in your mind, how you would like to act and behave. Constantly remind yourself of the changes you desire so you can act accordingly. It is your decision to change for the better.

Do not be disappointed or frustrated if you do not attain fast results. It does not matter how many times you fail or forget to behave as you desire. Persevere with your efforts and never give up and you will begin to see how you and your life changes. Remember, Self-improvement, self-growth and personal development is all about change that is for the better.

Your Life as it is today is the way it is because of how you think. To be successful and happy you have to think in a different way. You have to think and act outside your normal pre-conceptions; you have to think "in the 6th". The choice is always yours. It is not what you do, but the way that you do it, that counts.