Techniques to help with low self esteem
Techniques to help increase your self esteem. What is low self-esteem? It is to do with your thoughts and feelings about who you are and varies from day to day.
Do you ever feel beset by a situation that you are unsure of, for example, facing someone admired, having to perform in front of an audience or simply talking to others This can cause you a lot of stress? Confident people are usually able to face these situations without blinking; but so of you will probably melt away and try to run away from the situation.
If you have low self-esteem, these situations present an opportunity for you to make a fool out of yourself. This is a very embarrassing prospect.
If you are one of the millions of people that would like to stop fidgeting in front of others, trying to squirrel out of such situations, and being so unsure of yourself when facing presentations, here are a few tips for setting you on your way to increasing your low self esteem.
Competence is Confidence.
Some organizations, like the Toastmasters, help those afraid to speak in public toughen up by stressing this credo and it really works. One secret to confidence and low self-esteem is to be able to trust what you are able to do. This comes with a lot of practice and study. Whenever you practice a given skill, you increase your own confidence in your capability to perform even in front of other people.
Before a big event.
Try to know everything about the topic before you talk about it. If you have practiced way before, you will be in a better position to knock their socks off. Practicing in front of supportive people you trust will help you get feedback on how to improve your performance.
Believe in Yourself.
One of the reasons you are not confident in yourself is the fact that you are already convinced that you will fail even before anything happens. Never underestimate the power of the mind. If you believe you will fail, you indeed will! A better exercise would be to believe that you can succeed. Set your mind towards succeeding and you probably will!
Whether it is good or bad you must take criticisms. However, if you are like most you will be bad at taking criticisms. Instead of taking the criticisms personally, use every comment and suggestion to make yourself better. However, you will also have to look out for some criticisms that were never meant to benefit you. Ignore them and move on.
Remain Calm at All Costs.
Panicking will never benefit you. If you are suddenly in a situation where you are unsure of what to do or what will happen, keep your composure. If you do not know the answer, say so calmly. If you do not know what to do, it would not be bad to admit it. However, beneath your cool facade, always try to keep a deliberate, quick thinking, demeanor. This its self could take a lot of practice, but it is well worth it.
Do not be afraid to fail.
If you are afraid to fail and you quit trying because you are not confident in your skills. If you are afraid to try, you will get stuck where you are. Failure can only make you better. Remember that every great man took risks and failed a lot before arriving at greatness.
Do not base your confidence on what people think of you
While other’s opinion of you can be important, it should not stop you from thinking that you are important. They do not know you better than you do. If you free yourself from the shackles of peer opinion, you will be free to try new things and learn new skills. It does not matter if they think you cannot accomplish anything take whatever good that can be gleaned from their advice and move on.
Remember you can build your low esteem and confidence with practices you just need to believe in yourself.